Being a confident person is beautiful. I am an introvert; this may surprise many of you. But those who know me know this is my superpower, not my weakness. I had to learn that confidence looks different on me and accept that I look different than many other beautiful, powerful, and confident women.
Here are some things that I have learned, maybe it will help you to be a more confident person too.
Be willing to step into the unknown. – There are many opportunities that come my way, and I have missed out on some fun ones because of fear. I am learning it is ok to step into the unknown, to learn, and experience the unfamiliar territory. Will I like it? Don’t know until I try it.
See beyond the limitations people set for me. – I am capable of a lot of things. I know this now. I was told once that I wasn’t enough. That I wasn’t good enough for the relationship, I wasn’t smart enough to pass, I wasn’t pretty enough to dance, I wasn’t enough to be happy. If I listened to these people, I would never be the confident woman I am today. I am grateful for my journey, but grateful I didn’t settle for what they thought of me.
Create core relationships. – I found that my core people can’t all be like me. They have to challenge me to be the best version of myself. My core friends have changed my life for the better. I couldn’t be more grateful.
Squash the fear. – There is a saying, “Do something that scares you.” It is true. When you conquer your fears, you feel so much stronger and resilient. One of my favorite fears that I overcame was Taekwondo. I was so afraid to take it, afraid that I would be unable to remember the forms. I was afraid to look stupid. But I conquered the fear and am now a black belt in Taekwondo.
Accept help. – A hard part for me is accepting help, because it shows that I don’t have the answer. Do I want to have all the answers? Not really sure that I do, but admitting I don’t, felt like I wasn’t good enough. That I was unintelligent. However, when you see that it is ok to nott know everything, it’s a beautiful action to accept help from others. It helps them to feel important, too. This also means seeking professional help for emotional trauma or stress. This has been one of the best things that has helped me heal and become more confident in myself and my trust in God.
Show your strength.- Sit up and believe in your capabilities. Let people see your joy. Let them see you step out and be bold in your choices. Let them also see your quietness and your listening skills. Let them see how you handle your business and life.
Never compromise your morals. – Many of us have morals, whether we are a Christians or not. For me, I align my morals to being a child of God. Whatever your morals are, stick to them and don’t shift them to meet others’ standards.
Be Grateful. – No matter the circumstance or situation, find gratitude. Gratitude brings your blessings to mind. Gratitude has helped me see that I am so fortunate to be alive, which brings into awareness that no matter what I am going through, I am blessed.
Protect your heart. – I used to take everything to heart. But I have had to learn to not allow negative words to sink in. We all have a choice on what we accept as truth. Your heart is a special space; protect it.
I hope this helps you to become a more confident person, as it has done for me.
